When I was in employment during my late twenties, the managing director of the company I worked for asked if I would allow his young son to stay beside me for a week to gain work experience. And of course I was willing. He was a shy young lad. Pleasant and well mannered. It was probably a year later that his father found him dead in the garage at their luxury home. He had hung himself. I was distraught for his father and the family, and for myself, since I had got to know him reasonably well during his work experience.
A police officer who was called to investigate the suicide was an old friend of mine. Off the record he told me that the young man was found dead, dressed as a girl. So very sad.
I knew of a young lady who was worship leader in her church. She arrived home earlier than usual one day and found her husband dressed in her clothes. I can only imagine the difficulties this discovery produced in their relationship.
That was way back then, when occasionally we would learn of such things and shake our heads in sadness and almost disbelief.
Today the landscape has changed dramatically, and gender confusion is being aggressively promoted as a normal facet of human development.
So as Christians - rather than hearing only a one sided, and often strongly biased* media presentation on LGBTQIA+ issues (Lesbian, Gay, Genderqueer, Gender fluid, Bisexual, Bigender, Trans-gender, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Artonatic, Abrosexual and the + represents those who do not fit into any of these) - we need to also take note of some differing, concerned and knowledgeable opinions so that we can understand this issue in greater depth, and in order that we can develop a correct Kingdom way to respond to people claiming to have gender identity issues.
*In 2006 after a leaked account of an 'impartiality summit' The BBC admitted that there was bias against Christianity in favour of multiculturalism. They admitted that they would let the Bible be thrown into a dustbin on a TV comedy show, but not the Quran, and that they admitted the corporation is dominated by homosexuals and people from ethnic minorities..and more sensitive to the feelings of Muslims than Christians. One veteran BBC executive is quoted by the newspaper as saying that the bias is "so deeply embedded in the BBC's culture, that it is very hard to change it"
*Only 2% of the UK can be classified as LGBGT and yet - as of July 2018 - the BBC employs 11%, which includes 417 transgenders, and are seeking more lesbian employees.)
The big question is this.
Is gender confusion just one of many human disorders in this 'fallen' world of ours, and deserving understanding and sympathy, or have people somehow, genuinely, ended up in the wrong biological body?
However, before we look closer at the trans-gender issue, it is important to understand that there are other groups of people who feel just as strongly that their 'inside' identity does not match their 'outside' identity.
Around 10,000 people in the UK alone enjoy dressing as dogs according to a Channel 4 documentary. They identify so strongly that they like to dress in doggy suits, be taken for walks and even sleep in a dog cage.
The men who identify as dogs say that women are more likely to identify as cats. This Norwegian lady is fully convinced that she is a cat trapped in a human body.
'Otherkin' is a term used by people who identify as partially or entirely non-human, either in a spiritual sense or in terms of not being comfortable in their own body. They might feel like a dragon, an elf, a lion, a fox or a wolf. How they feel inside does not match how they look on the inside.
Some go as far as having complete facial surgery to identify as deeply as possible with the animal they truly belief is the 'real' them.
Dennis Anver transformed himself into 'catman' and liked to be known as 'stalking cat' (pictured left) He had his lip split to resemble the mouth of a cat. He had six stainless-steel mounts implanted on his forehead and 18 piercings above his lip to which he could attach whiskers. He had nose and brow implants, and silicone cheek, chin and lip injections. The tips of his ears are pointed. And he has so many tattoos they almost cover his body.” He was found dead in November 2012.
One 57 year old man has had 110 tattoos, 50 piercings, a split tongue, eyeballs coloured and both ears removed so that he can finally be truly content identifying as a parrot. Calling himself Parrot Man (pictured right) he is planning to have his nose reshaped into a beak.
Richard Hernandez from Maricopa County, Arizona first transgendered into identifing as a female, called Eva Tiamat Baphomet Medusa, and then into 'a dragon'.On 'her' website, Tiamat
explains: 'I am the Dragon Lady, A male to female transgender in the process of morphing into a human dragon, becoming a reptoid as I shed my human skin and my physical appearance and my life as a whole leaving my humanness behind. Transform surgery so far has included nose modification, tooth extraction, eye colouring, forked tongue, full-face tattoo, horns implanted onto her forehead, tattoos and scarification on her face and chest that resemble reptilian scales, double ear removals, and eyes stained green, giving her what she calls her 'Medusa green eyes of death'[details here]
Kinder-gender is where adults identify as children. This 52 year old Canadian man called Paul who was married, with seven kids, left his family in order to fulfil his true identity - as a six-year-old adopted girl called Stefonknee.
Some people don't identify with the racial identity they were born with. This is known as racial -dysphoria. Or trans-racial. For example,
According to Dr. Jeremiah Brockyard, a professor of psychology and sociology at Harvard University, in an article he wrote for the Monitor on Psychology, the American Psychological Association’s monthly publication,
...at least one in ten Americans is afflicted with the condition or
trans-racialised, and most choose to suffer in silence because they are
afraid of becoming the laughing stock of their respective communities. “These people genuinely believe in their heart of hearts that they
were born with the wrong skin colour, but they’re afraid to admit it to
anyone because most people think it’s a ridiculous idea,”
You get the idea, and perhaps you see where this might be heading?
Your first reaction to these trans-species, trans-age and trans-racial people is likely to be, 'These folk clearly have a physiological disorder'.
But here's the thing.
Until 2012 trans-gender was termed as 'Gender Identity Disorder' before LGBTQ pressure ensured it was changed to Gender Dysphoria, and no longer regarded as a mental illness.
Gender Dysphoria - to give 'trans-gender' its medically updated title - is medically defined as follows,
Gender dysphoria (formerly gender identity disorder) is defined by strong, persistent feelings of identification with the opposite gender and discomfort with one's own assigned sex that results in significant distress or impairment. People with gender dysphoria desire to live as members of the opposite sex and often dress and use mannerisms associated with the other gender. For instance, a person identified as a boy may feel and act like a girl. This incongruence causes significant distress, and this distress is not limited to a desire to simply be of the other gender, but may include a desire to be of an alternative gender.
Despite trans-gender protests, this medical definition, with a few word changes, can clearly be applied to the species-dysphoria and the racial-dysphoria people mentioned above.
But for the moment, these identity disorders do not have the political or media push behind them that trans-gender does.
There are further identity disorders that need be considered as important background information since they are also examples of people who strongly believe that their 'inside identity' differs from their 'outside identity'
Supernumerary phantom limb is a condition whereby people believe and receive information from limbs of the body that don't actually exist. This sometimes happens after a brain stroke. For instance, one gentleman believed that he had a third arm in the middle of his body, and another believed that he had a third hand.
In this last case, the patient reported actually ‘seeing’ the additional limb, similar to this case study of a gentleman who believed he had a third leg protruding from his left knee after suffering a stroke that affected the thalamus:
Body integrity identity disorder is a disorder in which an otherwise healthy individual feels that their true identity is to be disabled. This is s related to xenomelia, "the dysphoric feeling that one or more limbs of one's body do not belong to one's self" This disorder is typically accompanied by the desire to amputate one or more healthy
limbs. It also includes the desire for other forms of disability, as in
the case of a woman who intentionally blinded herself.It can be associated with apotemnophilia, sexual arousal based on the image of one's self as an amputee.
Their perceived reality is not reality. But it is real to them.
Before focusing more fully on the trans-gender issue it is helpful to understand the basic 'mechanics' of reproduction.
Females have an XX pair of sex chromosomes and males, an XY pair. If an egg is fertilised by an X-bearing sperm, the resulting embryo will have two X chromosomes (XX), and will grow into a baby girl.
If a Y-bearing sperm fertilises the egg, the embryo will have XY chromosomes, a boy.
Since men’s sperm carry both male and female chromosomes (Y & X) in 50:50 proportion, and women’s eggs carry only one female chromosome (only X, because her sex chromosomes are XX), the man’s sperm holds the key to a baby’s gender.
However, there are genuine chromosome disorders which can effect normal development.
In men, there are rare events when an extra X chromosome (XXY) or more rarely, two or three extra Xs (XXXY, XXXXY) resulting in low levels of testosterone, leading to less-developed masculine sexual characteristics and more-developed feminine characteristics than other men.
In contrast, some men receive an extra Y chromosome (XYY) and while they have been referred to as “supermales” that is more sensationalism than science. This is known as Klinefelter syndrome.
The signs and symptoms of Klinefelter syndrome (KS) vary among affected people. Some men with KS have no symptoms of the condition, or are only mildy affected. In these cases, they may not even know that they are affected by KS. When present, symptoms may include,
• Small, firm testicles
• Delayed or incomplete puberty
• Breast growth (gynecomastia)
• Reduced facial and body hair
• Tall height
• Abnormal body proportions (long legs, short trunk, shoulder equal to hip size)
• Learning disability
• Speech delay
Women with Turner syndrome have only one X chromosome and this alters development in females. Symptoms of Turner syndrome are:
• short stature and non-functioning ovaries which causes infertility,
• some women may also have extra skin on the neck (webbed neck),
• puffiness or swelling (lymphedema) of the hands and feet,
• skeletal abnormalities,
• heart defects,
• high blood pressure,
• and kidney problems.
Many girls are diagnosed with Turner syndrome in early childhood when a slow growth rate and other features such as webbed neck, a broad chest, and widely spaced nipples are identified.
These rare chromosome disorders are not included in the common trans-gender debate.
Likewise, Ambiguous genitalia - a birth defect (or birth variation) of the sex organs that makes it
unclear whether an affected newborn is a girl or boy. This condition
occurs approximately once in every 4,500 births. The majority of babies with ambiguous genitalia have been brought up as
girls. A few operations may be needed, usually begun in the child's
first year. Treatment falls into four categories: Parental counselling, surgery, counselling for the child and hormone treatment.
This disorder is not included in the common trans-gender debate.
With this important background we can now focus wholly on the issue of gender - dysphoria from here on referred to as trans-gender.
First of all the full list of gender titles being promoted on Facebook.
• Cis Female
• Cis Male
• Cis Man
• Cis Woman
• Cisgender Female
• Cisgender Male
• Cisgender Man
• Cisgender Woman
• Female to Male
• Gender Fluid
• Gender Nonconforming
• Gender Questioning
• Gender Variant
• Male to Female
• Trans Female
• Trans* Female
• Trans Male
• Trans* Male
• Trans Man
• Trans* Man
• Trans Person
• Trans* Person
• Trans Woman
• Trans* Woman
• trans-gender Female
• trans-gender Male
• trans-gender Man
• trans-gender Person
• trans-gender Woman
• Transsexual Female
• Transsexual Male
• Transsexual Man
• Transsexual Person
• Transsexual Woman
The pin-up person for trans-gender is undoubtedly Bruce Jenner - a 1976 Olympic gold medal winner in Montreal, who in recent years has become Caitlyn Genner.
'She' was runner up for Time Magazine Person of the year in 2015, and was voted trans-gender Champion at American Glamour's Women of the Year Awar. 'She' also featured on the cover of Vanity Fair. As part of his-to-her transformation he took hormones, had the hair on his body and face removed, his nose fixed twice and a tracheal shave. He had facial-feminisation surgery, breast augmentation and gender reassignment surgery. 'She' is still not sure which sex she is attracted to.
Trans-gender numbers are calculated to be between 0.3% - 0.76% of the population. (USA figures)
By being included in the extremely aggressive LGBTQIA+ movement, trans-gender 'normalisation' has become highly politicised and become the new cultural norm where no contrary view will be listened to, or even tolerated.
Well known feminist Germain Greer was called 'trans-phobic' and denied an honorary doctorate because she believes that gender surgery on a man does not make him a woman.
Once upon a time, ‘binary’ was a mathematical term. Now it is an insult on a par with ‘racist’, ‘sexist’ or ‘homophobic’, to be deployed as a weapon in our culture wars. The enemy on this particular battleground is anyone who maintains that there are men and there are women, and that the difference between them is fundamental.
It has got the stage where, when a doctor or or mid-'wife' (oops!) delivers a baby, then rather than declaring with joy "It's a boy" or "It's a girl" may have to end up saying, "I wonder what gender it will be when it grows up?"
Indeed some people are already referring to new-borns as 'Theybes'
The Bible, as we know, draws clear lines on the issue of human identity,
So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them,
“Be fruitful and multiply Genesis 1:27-28a
It is therefore easy to see that this trans-gender issue will increasing put pressure on churches.
Especially those which happily state 'ALL WELCOME'
Hence the need for some depth of understanding.
It is important for Christians to understand that the spirit of the age is empowering this total breakdown of family structure. This movement has gathered such momentum that in the UK, some children as young as four are being asked to choose what gender they are. Some parents have received a letter asking them whether their child preferred being male or female. Canada's Ontario province has passed legislation that allows the government to seize children from families that refuse to accept their child's chosen "gender identity" or "gender expression." Many uniforms - from school to police - are becoming gender-neutral. As increasingly are toilet facilities.
'In Sweden teachers are working hard to de-construct traditional gender differences. Instead of “boys and girls,” they say “friends,” or call children by name. Play is organized to prevent children from sorting themselves by gender. A gender-neutral pronoun, “hen,” was introduced in 2012 and was swiftly absorbed into mainstream Swedish culture, something that, linguists say, has never happened in another country.
A Daily Mail report of October 24th 2017 stated,
Record figures suggest 2,600 youngsters are expected to be referred to Britain's largest gender clinic this year. This is based on the 1,302 referrals made in the past 6 months alone - a 24% increase on the previous 6 months. If the projection for 2017-18 is met, it will represent a rise of 29% on the total of 2,016 referrals made in 2016-17. By contrsat, in 2009-10 there were just 97, while the following year there were 139...Referrals over the last 18 months included two children aged four, four five year olds, and seventeen children aged six.
But gender expert Professor Miroslav Djordjevic suggested the rise could be in part a fad among parents who indulge their children. "I cannot believe the 50 children a week will be transgender. We're seeing a lot of parents who come for help because they are not sure if their children are transgender or just being children.To say a girl of five is transgender is impossible.At the minute it's something like a fashion. And of course there is a danger children could regret having children."
The report also included this,
A woman who began treatment to become a man and later regretted it has warned against letting young children have such procedures. Kate, 30, who spoke on condition of anonymity, injected herself with hormones, causing her voice to drop and facial hair to grow. She gave up after deciding she was not transgender. The medical student, who started her treatment in her early 20s, said she felt encouraged to do so after visiting online forums. She said: “I’m very concerned that if I was a teenager now or even younger, I or my parents would be pushed to consider me then as transgender. I would have welcomed that at the time. “I wanted to be a boy when I was younger because boys were allowed to be assertive and confident. “A young person may now take hormones or have surgery and later regret it. By giving treatment to children we may be perpetrating a great harm.” Kate said only last year did she become comfortable as a female. She said her deeper voice and facial hair are a constant reminder of how “misguided” she was.
The Independent newspaper carried a report (June 23rd 2017) by leading academic Dr Joanna Williams who was speaking at the Festival of Education at Wellington School, Berkshire. It stated,
...the author and academic researcher said the vast majority of children may start school understanding the difference between genders, but are “quickly encouraged to unlearn this knowledge”. “By the time they start school, most children know their name, how old they are and where they live. “Most also know for certain whether they are a boy or a girl. Despite this, many primary schools now have policies in place ‘to support trans children’ and to ‘provide a broad overview of the needs of transgender children and their families’.” This can be counterproductive, she said, “encouraging even the youngest children to question whether they really are a boy or a girl.” Introducing transgender policies in schools is a waste of time and taxpayers’ money, and only confuses children further, a leading academic has claimed. As increasing numbers of children and adults in the UK seek referrals for gender identity clinics, schools are being encouraged to become more inclusive, with many now providing gender neutral toilets, uniforms and language policies. But putting such policies into practice only encourages more children to question unnecessarily whether they are a boy or a girl, argues Dr Joanna Williams. “We are increasingly reminded that schools are struggling financially. Yet the time, effort and money that goes into producing and monitoring Transgender Policies is out of all proportion to the tiny number of trans children currently in British schools,” she told teachers and school leaders...... However politically well intentioned teachers may be, criticising the views and values of home vastly alters the remit of the school away from education and towards the promotion of a distinct political outlook.”
The Daily Mail, August 24th 2018, published details from a US researchers survey of 254 parents of children who claimed to have gender dysphoria. The facts were disturbing. Teenagers who question their biological gender often have friends who have become transgender.In almost 90 per cent of cases, the children were reportedly second, third or fourth within their friendship group to question their gender.The study, published in the journal PLOS One, raises concerns that gender dysphoria could spread through groups of friends.
This has already been seen in friendship groups for eating disorders, depression and drug use. One parent said their child had seen a ‘great increase in popularity’ by identifying as transgender, adding: ‘Being trans is a gold star in the eyes of other teens.’
The researcher, Dr Lisa Littman of Brown University, is the first to research the unprecedented rise in the number of teenage girls who are suddenly identifying as boys after starting puberty. Her study found that,
... 62.5% of young people were diagnosed with one or more psychiatric disorder prior to announcing that they were trans. 48.4% had experienced stress or trauma. 45% were engaging in self-harm prior to coming out as trans and 58% had difficulties with emotion regulation. These proportions appear very high and suggest a troubled, clinical population. And concerningly, of those parents who were aware of the content of their child’s consultation with a mental health professional 71.6% reported that the clinician did not explore mental health issues, previous trauma or other potential causes for gender dysphoria.”
Victoria Atkins - UK minister for women and equality - in a Telegragh interview, and talking about the sharp rise in the number of children – and girls, in particular – being referred to the NHS over gender issues, said she was “a little cautious” of the use of medical treatments that have potential consequences for the rest of a child’s life.
She, along with every person who urges caution or spotlights disquieting research draws the well tried and tested fury LGBT activists attack. Most wither under the attack and relent and withdraw.
What is left is the sound of one hand clapping.
The mainline media have embraced this new and radically liberal gender / family worldview, which a decade ago society would instinctively have been termed perverse and shameful.
For instance, the day after Father's Day 2018, the New York Times ran a full page editorial in their printed edition titled, 'Yeah, I'm a pregnant man - What?'
The opening lines read,
'Paetyn, an impish 1-year-old, has two fathers. One of them gave birth to her. As traditional notions of gender shift and blur, parents and children like these are redefining the concept of family.'
The article goes on to tell its readers that Payten's 'father', anonymously called Tanner is a transgender man. He was born female but began transitioning to male in his teens, and takes the male hormone testosterone. His partner - and Paetyn’s biological father - is David, 35, a gay man. Tanner is listed on Payten's birth certificate as her mother, but hopes to eventually get that changed to father. Both men are drag queens at a local club in New York. Tanner missed a few doses of testosterone and to his surprise discovered he was pregnant. Tanner said he has gone from bisexual to lesbian, drag king, trans man, gay man, and now pregnant man, saying, “I’m literally every letter of LGBTQ.” David hopes Tanner will have another child, and Tanner likes the idea some days, and other days not. Speaking of his one year old daughter David said, "“I hope she’s a lesbian. Then we won’t have boys coming to the house and we won’t have to worry about her getting pregnant.” [Dr Albert Mohler's commentary here]
This is the 'brave new world' that we are being led into - or increasingly - being forced into accepting as the new normal.
George Orwell wrote,
“In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.”
The many knowledgeable psychiatrists who have told the truth - and have refused to be bullied off the truth - have indeed found themselves moved in position from mainstream to revolutionaries.
Problem is, Dr. Paul McHugh is possibly the most respected, most honoured psychiatrist in the world.
In 2016 the editors of The New Atlantis called him “arguably the most important psychiatrist of the last half-century”
Here is some of his Curriculum Vitae.(CV)
A Harvard College and Harvard Medical School graduate, he was Henry Phipps Professor and Director of Psychiatry and Behavioural Sciences at John Hopkin’s University School of Medicine and Psychiatrist-in-chief at John Hopkin’s Hospital from 1975 to 2001.
In 1998 The John Hopkin’s School of Medicine - rated by U.S.News & World Report as one of the top medical schools in the world - named him the University Distinguished Service Professor.
In 2015, it named a new programme after him, as he became the inaugural Director of the Paul R. McHugh Program for Human Flourishing, located within the Dept. of Psychiatry and Behavioural Sciences.
He was inducted into the The National Academy of Science’s Institute of Medicine in 1992 and in 2009 it awarded him its Sarnat International prize in Mental Health for “outstanding achievement in improving mental health”
Appointed by President Bush (2001) to the President’s Council on Bioethics.
The Paul Hoch Award of the American Psychopathological Association
Joseph Zubin Award of the American Psychopathological Association
William C. Menninger Award from the American College of Physicians
Professor of Psychiatry at Cornell University School of Medicine.
Clinical Director and Director of Residency Education at the New York Hospital -Westchester Division.
Professor and Chairman of the Department of Psychiatry at the Oregon Health Sciences Centre.
He is the author of many books, including ‘The Perspectives of Psychiatry’, described by the National Academy of Science as “a treatise on practise methods and principles which has been lauded as one of the most influential psychiatry texts in the last century”
Clearly his opinions are worth taking seriously
Here are some of his many informed statements on the trans-gender issue.
“People who undergo sex-reassignment surgery do not change from men to women or vice versa. Rather, they become feminised men or masculinised women. Claiming that this is a civil-rights matter and encouraging surgical intervention is in reality to collaborate with and promote a mental disorder.”
“The trans-gendered suffer a disorder of ‘assumption’ like those in other disorders familiar to psychiatrists. With the trans-gendered, the disordered assumption is that the individual differs from what seems given in nature — namely one's maleness or femaleness. Other kinds of disordered assumptions are held by those who suffer from anorexia and bulimia nervosa, where the assumption that departs from physical reality is the belief by the dangerously thin that they are overweight. …”
“Policy makers and the media are doing no favours either to the public or the trans-gendered by treating their confusions as a right in need of defending rather than as a mental disorder that deserves understanding, treatment and prevention. This intensely felt sense of being trans-gendered constitutes a mental disorder in two respects. The first is that the idea of sex misalignment is simply mistaken — it does not correspond with physical reality. The second is that it can lead to grim psychological outcomes.”
"...those who enable the mental illness of trans-genderism are “collaborating with madness."
"Psychiatrists have been preparing the mentally ill for life-changing
surgeries instead of “studying the causes and natures of their mental
“We psychiatrists, I thought, would do better to concentrate on trying to fix their minds and not their genitalia,”
compares pro-trans-gender school “diversity counsellors” who encourage
“trans-gender” students to embrace gender-confused identities to “cult
leaders,” noting that 80 percent of “very young, often prepubescent
children” who believe they are in the wrong-sexed body “would abandon
their confusion and grow naturally into adult life if untreated.” [Example]
these very young, supposedly “trans-gender” children, Dr. McHugh wrote,
“Misguided doctors at medical centres including Boston's Children's
Hospital have begun trying to treat this behaviour by administering
puberty-delaying hormones to render later sex-change surgeries less
onerous - even though the drugs stunt the children's growth and risk
said transsexual “medical interventions” on children “come close to
child abuse. A better way to help these children: with devoted
The famous John Hopkins University hospital, in 1966, became the the first in the world to do gender-re-assignment surgery. However they stopped doing the surgery in 1979 because Dr Paul McHugh's evidence showed that the operation produced "no objective advantage in terms of social rehabilitation."
For the post-surgery trans-gender men, data collected showed that most of the patients did not regret the genitalia change “but in every other respect, they were little changed in their psychological condition. They had the same problems with relationships, work, and emotions as before.”
However as the pro-trans-gender movement gathered a powerful momentum the reassignment surgery was restarted in 1997.
In the autumn of 2016 Dr Paul McHugh and Dr. Lawrence S. Mayer, M.B., M.S., Ph.D. a scholar in residence in the Department of Psychiatry at the Johns
Hopkins University School of Medicine and a professor of statistics and
biostatistics at Arizona State University, co-authored a lengthy paper on gender titled; 'Sexuality and Gender' in The New Atlantis magazine. This caused a storm of protest from those who favour the view that trans-gender is not a physiological issue but a biological one.
Again, Dr. Lawrence C. Mayers impressive CV is worth noting,
He is a bio-statistician and epidemiologist who focuses on the design,
analysis, and interpretation of experimental and observational data in
public health and medicine, particularly when the data are complex in
terms of underlying scientific issues.
Mayer studied psychology
(pre-med) at Arizona State University and Ohio State University; studied
medicine and mathematics at Ohio State University; and trained in
medicine and psychiatry in the United Kingdom, obtaining his M.B. (the
British equivalent to the American M.D.) in 1970 from the Guy’s Hospital
Medical School, although he never practiced medicine (including
psychiatry) in the United States or abroad. He earned an M.S. in
mathematics from Ohio State in 1969 and a Ph.D. in statistics and
biostatistics from Ohio State in 1971. His dissertation was titled
“Utilizing Initial Estimates in Estimating the Coefficients in a General
He has held professorial appointments at eight
universities (Princeton, the University of Pennsylvania, Stanford,
Arizona State University, Johns Hopkins University Bloomberg School of
Public Health and School of Medicine, Ohio State, Virginia Tech, and the
University of Michigan), and has also held research faculty
appointments at several other institutions (including, from 2014 to
2016, the Mayo Clinic). His full-time and part-time appointments have
been in twenty-three disciplines, including statistics, biostatistics,
epidemiology, public health, social methodology, psychiatry,
mathematics, sociology, political science, economics, and biomedical
Mayer has been published in many peer-reviewed journals (including The Annals of Statistics, Biometrics, International Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry, and American Journal of Political Science)
and has reviewed hundreds of manuscripts submitted for publication to
many of the major medical, statistical, and epidemiological journals
(including The New England Journal of Medicine, Journal of the American Statistical Association, and American Journal of Public Health).
has testified in dozens of federal and state legal proceedings and
regulatory hearings, in most cases reviewing scientific literature to
clarify the issues under examination.
The 2016 co-authored article summary reads as as follows. (in part)
The hypothesis that gender identity is an innate, fixed property of
human beings that is independent of biological sex - that a person might
be “a man trapped in a woman’s body” or “a woman trapped in a man’s
body” — is not supported by scientific evidence.
Studies comparing the brain structures of trans-gender and
non-trans-gender individuals have demonstrated weak correlations between
brain structure and cross-gender identification. These correlations do
not provide any evidence for a neurobiological basis for cross-gender
Compared to the general population, adults who have undergone
sex-reassignment surgery continue to have a higher risk of experiencing
poor mental health outcomes. One study found that, compared to controls,
sex-reassigned individuals were about 5 times more likely to attempt
suicide and about 19 times more likely to die by suicide.
Children are a special case when addressing trans-gender issues. Only a
minority of children who experience cross-gender identification will
continue to do so into adolescence or adulthood.
There is little scientific evidence for the therapeutic value of
interventions that delay puberty or modify the secondary sex
characteristics of adolescents, although some children may have improved
psychological well-being if they are encouraged and supported in their
cross-gender identification. There is no evidence that all children who
express gender-atypical thoughts or behaviour should be encouraged to
Gender reassignment surgery is on the rise. The American Society of Plastic Surgeons released its first-ever report tracking national statistics on trans-gender surgery, increasingly referred to as “gender confirmation surgeries,” that showed close to a 20 percent increase in 2016 over the previous year. The ASPS, which represents 94 percent of all U.S. board-certified plastic surgeons, revealed that members of the organisation performed 3,256 “trans-masculine” and “trans-feminine” surgeries last year.
Filling in some of the details, NBC News reported,
Among trans-gender women, 92 percent of the procedures were breast or chest operations, and 7 percent were facial. Only 15 operations, or 0.9 percent, were on the genitals. Among trans-gender men, there were zero genital operations reported. Of all procedures on trans-gender men, 95 percent involved the breast or chest and 5 percent on the face.
Most trans-gender people forgo gender
reassignment surgery, with only 11 percent of trans-gender women having
had their testicles removed and 12 percent undergoing vaginoplasty,
according to a landmark U.S. survey of nearly 28,000 trans-gender adults
released last year by the National Centre for trans-gender Equality.
However, roughly half of trans-gender women
said they would like to have such surgeries, that survey said, finding
many lack the money or health insurance to cover costs.
“trans-genderism is a psychological disorder, not a biological one," she said. "Consequently, we expect trans-gendersm and it's associated medical procedures to increase as society increasingly promotes this lifestyle.”
Dr. Cretella also called attention to the ASPS' newly coined term "gender confirmation" surgery.
“Linguistic engineering precedes and accompanies social engineering,"
"Trans-gender activist physicians realize that sex reassignment surgery is a misnomer. In other words, surgery cannot change a person’s sex. By renaming sex reassignment surgery gender confirming surgery, they give the impression that they are affirming an inborn trait and further the innate immutable trans-gender myth.”
The active promotion of trans-genderism has resulted in massive uncontrolled and unconsented experimentation upon children and adolescents," Cretella warned. "This is child abuse.”
“Many children are being permanently sterilized by these treatments and sentenced to a lifetime of toxic medications to impersonate the opposite sex. Medications that cause everything from cardiovascular disease to diabetes to cancer.”
“As activists continue to encourage earlier diagnosis of so-called trans-gender children and lead them down the path of chemical castration with puberty blockers, followed by cross sex hormones, surgeons in the field are seeking to lower the age of consent for sex reassignment surgeries, which include double mastectomies, hysterectomies, the construction of vaginal pouches, and the removal of testes and penises.
Dr. Joseph Berger is a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American
Psychiatric Association and a Fellow of the Royal College of Physicians
and Surgeons of Canada. He is a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and
Neurology; the former representative for Ontario (2002-2010) to the
Assembly of the American Psychiatric Association; and the author of The Independent Medical Examination in Psychiatry, as well as numerous medical and academic papers. Speaking before the Canadian House of Commons Standing Committee on Justice and Human Rights he stated,
"...from a scientific perspective being “trans-gendered is a
psychological issue, emotional unhappiness – and cosmetic surgery
is not the proper treatment.”
‘Trans-gendered’ are people who claim that they really are, or wish to
be, people of the sex opposite to which they were born, or to which
their chromosomal configuration attests.Sometimes, some of
these people have claimed that they are ‘a woman trapped in a man’s
body’ or alternatively ‘a man trapped in a woman’s body. Scientifically, there is no such thing. The medical treatment of delusions, psychosis or emotional happiness is not by surgery,.
“The proper treatment of emotional unhappiness is not surgery,” said
Dr. Berger. “Cosmetic surgery will not change the chromosomes of a
human being. Cosmetic surgery will not make a man become a woman,
capable of menstruating, ovulating, and having children. Cosmetic
surgery will not make a woman into a man, capable of generating sperm
that can unite with an egg or ovum from a woman and fertilize that egg
to produce a human child.”
“These are the scientific facts,” he said.
Dr. Gerard van den Aardweg, A Dutch psychologist with more than 50 years’ experience treating homosexual individuals, and the author of several books on this subject states,
...“genital transitional” surgeries are harmful mutilation and an act of inhumanity toward people who have a “serious mental disorder.”
He also stated that transgender individuals are “severely neurotic, sometimes
borderline psychotic, and there are cases of demonic influences.”
The “compulsive transgender crave, like many neurotic obsessions
and immature passions, is resistant to change,” and “will be alive as
long as the person is in the grip of his feelings of his
gender-inferiority complex as a desperate wishful fantasy.”
“It is not changed or satisfied by hormonal or surgical interventions.”
These may lead to an “initial euphoria,” but that will give way to
“renewed dissatisfaction and restlessness, depression, failed
relationships based on his fake-role, promiscuity, substance abuse,
“This study found substantially higher rates of overall mortality, death from cardiovascular disease and suicide, suicide attempts, and psychiatric hospitalizations in sex-reassigned transsexual individuals compared to a healthy control population. This highlights that post-surgical transsexuals are a risk group that need long-term psychiatric and somatic follow-up. Even though surgery and hormonal therapy alleviates gender dysphoria, it is apparently not sufficient to remedy the high rates of morbidity and mortality found among transsexual persons. Improved care for the transsexual group after the sex reassignment should therefore be considered.”
Another study, reported by the Daily Mail revealed that Autistic teenagers are being given powerful drugs which pave the way for a sex change, despite experts’ fears that they might not be transgender at all. Up to 150 youngsters have been given ‘puberty blocker’ drugs, which stop the body maturing, after being seen at Britain’s only NHS transgender clinic for children.The figure is based on an official report which found that a third of those referred to the Tavistock Clinic in London have strong signs of autism. By comparison, just one in 100 of the general population is thought to be autistic.
Changing genitals does not change chromosomes and other essential gender attributes. In the book 'Why Men Don’t Iron: The Science of Gender Studies by Anne and Bill Moir, they wrote that men have on average ten times more testosterone than women. Women use a vocabulary that is different enough from men’s to be “statistically significant.” Men are distinct emotionally too.
Medical tests were carried out on the brain function of 48 heterosexual men (HeM) and women (HeW) and 24 gynephillic male to female transsexuals (MtoF-TR) The results were summarised thus; 'The present data do not support the notion that brains of MtoF-TR are feminised.'
So what are we to make of the clash of viewpoints between two strong schools of thought?
Judging by the fruit is obviously a good starting point.
There is no conclusive evidence that sex change operations improve the lives of transsexuals, with many people remaining severely distressed and even suicidal after the operation, according to a medical review conducted exclusively for Guardian Weekend tomorrow.
The review of more than 100 international medical studies of post-operative transsexuals by the University of Birmingham's aggressive research intelligence facility (Arif) found no robust scientific evidence that gender reassignment surgery is clinically effective.
...research from the US and Holland suggests that up to a fifth of patients regret changing sex.
A 1998 review by the Research and Development Directorate of the NHS Executive found attempted suicide rates of up to 18% noted in some medical studies of gender reassignment.
"... you can castrate a male at birth, create a female genital structure, raise the child as a girl, and in a majority of the cases, they'll still recognize themselves as male. Now many of the children I've seen are still young. I don't know what will happen as they get older.
The larger point is that it's been a monstrous failure, this idea that you can convert a child's sex by making over the child's genitals in the sex you've chosen. This began in the 1950's, when surgeons who felt helpless when they encountered intersex children thought they were helping them with sexual reassignment. The psychologists were saying, "You can make a boy or a girl or anything you want." It wasn't true. The children often knew it.
Dr. Harry Benjamin was an early pioneer and a strong advocate for cross-gender hormone therapy and gender-reassignment surgery, who operated a private clinic for transsexuals.
According to an article in the Journal of Gay & Lesbian Mental Health, “By 1972, Benjamin had diagnosed, treated, and befriended at least a thousand of the ten thousand Americans known to be transsexual.”
Dr. Benjamin’s trusted colleague, endocrinologist Charles Ihlenfeld administered hormone therapy to some 500 trans-gender people over a period of six years at Benjamin’s clinic - until he became concerned about the outcomes. “There is too much unhappiness among people who have the surgery,” he said. “Too many of them end as suicides. 80% who want to change their sex shouldn’t do it.” But even for the 20% he thought might be good candidates for it, sex change is by no means a solution to life’s problems. He thinks of it more as a kind of reprieve. “It buys maybe 10 or 15 years of a happier life,” he said, “and it's worth it for that.”
But then, wrote Walt Heyer, Ihlenfeld himself never had a sex change. I did, and I disagree with him on that last point: The reprieve is not worth it. After I had a reprieve of seven or eight years, then what? I was worse off than before. I looked like a woman - my legal documents identified me as a woman - yet I found that at the end of the “reprieve” I wanted to be a man every bit as passionately as I had once yearned to be a woman. Recovery was difficult.
Nevertheless, based on his experience treating 500 trans-genders, Dr. Ihlenfeld concluded that the desire to change genders most likely stemmed from powerful psychological factors. He said in 'Trans-gender Subjectivities: A Clinician's Guide', “Whatever surgery did, it did not fulfil a basic yearning for something that is difficult to define. This goes along with the idea that we are trying to treat superficially something that is much deeper.”
A Swedish study titled; 'Long-Term Follow-Up of Transsexual Persons Undergoing Sex Reassignment Surgery: Cohort Study in Sweden' concluded
Persons with trans-sexualism, after sex reassignment, have considerably higher risks for mortality, suicidal behaviour, and psychiatric morbidity than the general population. Our findings suggest that sex reassignment, although alleviating gender dysphoria, may not suffice as treatment for trans-sexualism, and should inspire improved psychiatric and somatic care after sex reassignment for this patient group.
"There were lots of “transgenders” at the hearing. Almost all of them
were men wearing women’s clothes. The testimony of many of them was
quite sad and very revealing. They talked about the “bigotry” in
society. They also talked about molestation, sexual abuse, and living
very dysfunctional lives. They described feelings of suicide. They
repeatedly made the point that unless their demands to use the bathroom
and shower of their choice are granted, they will likely kill
themselves. All of this revealed to any observer that these people need real
mental health help. For these people, being “transgender” is clearly a
symptom of other tragic pain and trauma that is going on inside them."
Chad Felix Greene, who struggled with gender confusion and is author of the Reasonably Gay, wrote
The argument can be summarized as follows. Without medical treatment (expensive surgery and lifelong hormone therapy), social acceptance, correct pronoun use, and open bathroom access, trans people will never be comfortable in their bodies or in society. Consequently, they are at a high risk for suicide, and it’s an injustice not to make these “treatments” available; the crime of killing trans people can even be laid at the feet of those who do not take these steps.
Further, if transgenderism requires medical treatment, how can it form the basis of anyone’s identity? Trans people and their allies have, of course, insisted with great indignation that their condition is not an illness, but it is hard to see how this conclusion is to be avoided, if it’s insisted that it must betreatedor else will be fatal.
Illnesses that require treatment do not constitute anyone’s identity. Being HIV-positive requires medical treatment. I do notidentifyas HIV-positive as though it made me an entirely new kind of person. It is a condition I need to treat in order to live and be healthy. How is being trans any different?
'Tranzformed' is a powerful and award winning documentary featuringin-depth interviews with fifteen ex-transgender individuals about their experiences and how they have found peace and healing.The testimonies are very moving and powerful. Each person suffered from gender confusion in different ways and their stories are highly personal, sometimes including abuse. Many of them had surgery or hormone treatment in an attempt to live as a different gender.
This gender confusion is turning family stability on its head. And delighted to do so. The stable man woman, husband wife, son daughter and boy girl framework is going into the bin.
What will happen when all of society is sexless in both language and law? If the law does not recognize your body as physically male or female - applying only the word “gender” to your internal, self-reported self-perception - does the law even recognize your body? Every single cell of you has either “male” or “female” written into its DNA, but the law refuses to recognize such categories. Such laws will only recognize an infinite, immeasurable “gender spectrum,” your place on which is determined only by your mind. So what exactly are you after the law has de-sexed you? In what sense is your body a legal entity?
And what happens to your familial relationships after the law has de-sexed you? Are they legally recognized? I don’t see how they could be. Certainly not by default, certainly not by the recognition that each child comes through the union of two opposite-sex parents.
In a society de-sexed by law, would the state recognize your relationship as a husband or a wife? Mother or father? Daughter or son? Those are all sexed terms. A system that does not recognize the existence of male and female would be free to ignore the parentage of any child. You might be recognized as your child’s “legal guardian,” but only if the state agrees to that. Anybody can be a guardian to your child if the state decides it’s in the child’s “best interest.” In this vision, there is nothing to prevent the state fromsevering the mother-child bond at will.
Scott Yenor - professor of political science at Boise State University and visiting fellow in American Political Thought in the Simon Center for Principles and Politics at The Heritage Foundation - wrote,
Transgender rights activists are seeking to abridge parental rights by elevating the independent choices of young children. Respecting the sexual and gender “choices” of ever-younger children erodes parental rights and compromises the integrity of the family as an independent unit.
This can be seen in the Canadian province of Ontario, which passed a law allowing state agencies to prevent families that will not affirm a child’s chosen “gender identity” from adopting or providing foster care to children.
Children in Ontario can now make life-altering decisions before the age of consent against their parents’ wishes.
But the principle in Ontario’s law has an even wider reach.
The bill’s chief advocate thinks that it is “child abuse” to deny a child’s chosen gender identity. If this principle guides the law, Canada would come to deny what all political communities have traditionally acknowledged: that birth parents direct the education of their children.
This is already playing out in Norway, where a new law allows the state to decide about gender reassignment for children as young as 6 years old when both parents cannot agree on the child’s gender.
Low-quality evidence suggests that hormonal treatments for transgender adolescents can achieve their intended physical effects, but evidence regarding their psychosocial and cognitive impact are generally lacking.
However, despite the dearth of quality data on the physical and psychosocial effects of hormonal treatments on gender dysphoric children, teenagers and young adults, we can expect gender confusion to explode numerically as the relentless indoctrination develops ever increasing traction.
However, push back is slowly emerging.
During theFreedom Marchin May2018,ex-gays and ex-transgenders from around the United States converged on the Nation’s Capital to proclaim in public the freedom they have found by having a relationship with Jesus Christ, and confirmed that their life-transformation involvedno reparative therapy.
The web site called Sex Change Regret - 'A site for people who regret changing genders' does what is says on the label. It has stories and facts about the negative issues associated with a sex change.
It is administered by Walt Heyer, author of 'Gender, Lies and Suicide,' 'Paper Genders', 'Kid Dakota and the secret at Grandma's house', 'A Transgender's Faith' and 'Perfected with love'
Walt says, "I myself was diagnosed with gender identity disorder and underwent sex change surgery. Seven years later I realised sex change surgery was not treatment at all. I was misdiagnosed. I was suffering from a dissociative disorder that required talk therapy, not surgery"
His web site points to published stories of those who 'changed gender' and deeply regret it.
Ria Cooper made headlines last year when she became Britain’s youngest sex change patient aged 17, after years of begging her family and the NHS to turn her in to a girl. But now, having lived as a women for less than a year the 18-year has decided to change back in to a man after suffering huge mental anguish as a woman. She has cancelled the full sex change operation that was scheduled for January and ceased the female hormone therapy that has seen her develop breasts saying that she has found the changes overwhelming and that they have made her deeply unhappy. Although Ms Cooper underwent a thorough psychological assessment and counselling at Hull Royal Infirmary prior to starting her sex change therapy she has suffered such torment living as a women that she has tried to commit suicide twice. She told told the Sunday Mirror: ‘The hormones have made me feel up and down. One minute I feel moody and the next minute I feel really happy.’ The night I tried to slash my wrists I downed a bottle of Jack Daniel's and just thought about how alone I am, and how my decision has alienated my family and how I will have to become a boy again to resolve it'
"If sex change regret is are, why are surgeons offering reversal surgery?
The Belgrade Centre for Genital Reconstructive Surgery says that they have received requests for reversal surgery. If sex change regret is so rare, why are so many requesting reversal surgery? If sex change regret is so rare, why are surgeons offering reversal surgery?
These surgeons are known to perform the reversal surgery:
Dr. Sava Perovic, Sava Perovic Foundation Surgery
Dr. Rados Djinovic, Sava Perovic Foundation Surgery
Dr. Miroslav Djordjevic, Belgrade Center for Genital Reconstructive Surgery
Dr. Stan Monstrey, Universitair Ziekenhuis
Dr. Sherman Leis, The Philadelphia Center for Transgender Surgery
Of course the answer is: sex change regret is not rare at all."
However trans-activists quickly turn their fury on reports of anyone detransitioning.
A priest who blogs under the title of 'Standing on my head' ventured to give 12 possible reasons for much gender confusion. They may or may not have value, but are certainly worth some consideration. These are but the 12 bullet points. The views he expresses along with each point are worth reading.
Breakdown of the family
Breakdown of the extended family.
Rape and promiscuity.
Artificial contraceptives and abortion.
The disintegration of marriage.
Education and peer pressure.
Hormonal and environment factors.
Pornography and sexual behaviours.
Breakdown of religion.
Relativism and atheism.
The Bible speaks just a little on this subject, but it speaks clearly.
A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this. Deuteronomy 22:5
Clearly no gender confusion.
But Christian leaders will get push back even from within the ranks.
I read an angry response by a Christian lady to a Christian web site which dared to question the way the culture was going on the trans-gender issue. Part of her response read,
...and PLEASE don't give me that verse in Deuteronomy which you like to quote, forbidding men wearing women's clothing-look at the context, it refers to men dressing as woman in order to avoid military service.
Is she correct? The answer is a most definite no. Looking at the context it has no military context whatsoever. It is one of Deuteronomy chapter 22's miscellaneous laws...
If you see your fellow Israelite’s ox or sheep straying, do not ignore it but be sure to take it back to its owner.
If they do not live near you or if you do not know who owns it, take it home with you and keep it until they come looking for it. Then give it back.
Do the same if you find their donkey or cloak or anything else they have lost. Do not ignore it.
If you see your fellow Israelite’s donkey or ox fallen on the road, do not ignore it. Help the owner get it to its feet.
A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this.
If you come across a bird’s nest beside the road, either in a tree or on the ground, and the mother is sitting on the young or on the eggs, do not take the mother with the young.
You may take the young, but be sure to let the mother go, so that it may go well with you and you may have a long life.
Commentaries by Matthew Henry, John Wesley, and the NIV Study Bible gives no hint of any 'military' context.
So now the BIG question.
How should the Christian community respond to trans-gender people?
First of all, we have to decide if we are meant to be a condemning community or a receiving community.
I think we all would instantly choose the latter.
If a man or woman came to the church believing they were really a parrot, or a horse or a goat, would we show dismay or love and understanding?
I think we all would instantly choose the latter.
If a man or woman came to the church believing they were really different racially to what the racial identity they were clearly born with, would we show dismay or love and understanding?
I think we all would instantly choose the latter.
If a man or woman came to the church believing they were really an amputee when they clearly were not, would we show dismay or love and understanding?
I think we all would instantly choose the latter.
If a man or woman came to the church believing they really had more limbs that they clearly had, would we show dismay or love and understanding?
I think we all would instantly choose the latter.
If a man or woman came to the church believing they were really a different gender to what they were clearly born with, would we show dismay or love and understanding?
I would like to think we all would instantly choose the latter.
Where will those who don’t know God get to witness what life is like lived under the Lordship of Jesus Christ?
In the culture? In the media? On Television? In the workplace? In a club or public house?
Or in church?
Which of these people should not be allowed to sit under the teaching and the demonstration of the Good News?
Alcoholics? Adulterers? Fornicators? Extortioners? Revilers? Drug Addicts? Liars? Atheists? Thieves? Homosexuals? Muslims? Mormons? Divorcees? Paramilitaries? Paramilitaries? or Trans-genders?
If you welcome people but believe that God made some of them this way, then you do them, yourself and Christ a great injustice.
When you understand that in this fallen and ever darkening world there are innumerable spiritual, emotional, physiological, sexual and physical disorders and diseases, then you can welcome everyone with a compassionate Jesus heart.
We all came under this awful truth at one time in our lives,
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
But thanks to God we now live in this wonderful truth,
And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified,
but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
1 Corinthians 6 : 9-11
It is important to never compromise on truth for fear of offending, because it is the truth that sets you free. Compromise does not set you free. It brings confusion and distress.
And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make youfree.” John 8:32
The following sentence is is a good mission statement.
"Speak the truth lovingly and persistently, and then trust God to move on the hearts
of those who are in error".
How will you answer the BIG question? [click here]
"I had irreversible gender reassignment surgery in 1997 absolutely convinced I was a woman in a man's body. I anticipated living happily ever after, however I had persistent difficulties and fell into deep depression. I began reading the Bible, unsatisfied with superficial proclamations of diversity, inclusiveness, and tolerance. I happened upon King David's famous repentance Psalm 51 and discovered, like David, I could be forgiven for all my sins. I also learned God chastens those whom He loves and I was being guided to seek repentance, and faith in the finished work of Jesus Christ. I knew identifying as a woman was not living in truth, and returned to my given names and birth gender without further surgery. My victory has come by allowing the Lord in my heart, becoming God-focused instead of self-centred, and am thankful for my birth sex and many blessings. despite the consequences and challenges. God has led me to witness His truth and love, and I can testify: indeed, God's grace, mercy and truth do set one free.
Over 30 years ago I underwent sex re-assignment surgery at the hands of a skilled sex change surgeon, Dr Stanley Briber. Ever since I could remember, I felt like I was born in the wrong body. The diagnosis was gender dysphoria, or gender identity disorder. The trans-gender support community provided an answer - take hormones and get sex reassignment surgery. In other words, change into a woman. But can you really change? Dr. Biber claimed that he had changed me from a man into a woman. Years later the truth emerged - Dr. Biber’s own words in an affidavit to a California court stated no sex change occurred. I was indeed still a man. My perfectly good body parts had been amputated. Years of looking like and living as a woman did not bring the promised treatment or relief. I still suffered from psychological issues which needed to be properly diagnosed and treated.
I turned to Jesus Christ, who surrounded me with His loving people. Through their unconditional love, I finally received treatment for dissociative disorder and now I am restored as a father, husband and man. Now we are celebrating my restored life, and sharing the amazing story through my book, 'Trading my sorrows'