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Understanding ‘soul ties’

(or, Freedom from distressing and damaging relationships)

Popular phrases such as 'the Trinity' and 'the rapture' are not to be found within the pages of scripture.However they adequately serve to describe truth readily found within scripture.

Likewise, the phrase 'soul ties', though not found in scripture, is useful for describing a very powerful truth that runs throughout scripture. (Scripture quoted is from the King James and New King James version)

You could wrap a knife and fork up together in a napkin for years and they would never interact or bond with one another.  They are not designed to.

You could set a chair upon a floor for years and the two items would never interact or bond with one another. They are not designed to.

We however, are different.

As spiritual beings with a soul, living in a body, we are designed to interact and bond with our maker and with one another.

God has designed us for fellowship in such a deep and wonderful way that scripture describes us as being capable of being knit together (Picture sleeves knit on to a wollen garment)

We however, are different.

As spiritual beings with a soul, living in a body, we are designed to interact and bond with our maker and with one another.

Indeed God has created us for fellowship in such a deep and wonderful way that scripture describes us as being capable of being 'knit together.

For instance, as a group of people with one common purpose. (e.g. Masonic & orange brotherhoods where men call each other ‘brother’)

So all the men of Israel were gathered against the city, knit together as one man. Judges 20:11

With a very close and beloved friend..

And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David. and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. 1st Samuel 18:1

Even with a stranger where there is a heartfelt offer of help

And David went out to meet them, and answered and said unto them, If ye be come peaceably unto me to help me, mine heart shall be knit unto you: 1st Chronicles 12:17

With brothers and sisters within the Body of Christ

That their hearts might be comforted, being knit together in love. Colossians.2:2

And not holding the Head, from which alt the body by joints and bands having nourishment ministered, and knit together. increaseth with the increase of God. Colossians 2:19

In fact, not only are Christians members of the Body of Christ, not only are they brothers and sisters within the family of God, but scripture states that are also individually members of each other! 

For as we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function, so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another.  Romans 12:5

Paul expands on this powerful 'tie' in his letter to the church at Corinth..

And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honoured, all the members rejoice with it. Now you are the body of Christ, and members individually. 1st Corinthians 12:26

Even the Hebrew word for ‘companion’ speaks of people being ‘knit together’

Companion in Strongs #2270 chabler, knaw-bare: from 2266; an associate: - companion, fellow, knit together

This knitting together can be a good and Godly companionship  

‘ a companion(knit together) of all that fear thee..’ Psalm none9:63

or an evil and ungodly companionship

‘..the same is the companion(knit together) of a thief.’ Proverbs 28:24 (see also 1st Cor. 15:33)

Our lives can be bound up or tied to another’s - a very deep level of joining. (Picture two people bound together with rope)

‘Now therefore when I come to thy servant my father, and the lad be not with us; seeing that his life (Jacob’s) is bound up with the lad’s’. (Benjamin’s) Genesis: 44:30

Young's literal version translates it this way,

And now, at my coming in unto thy servant my father, and the youth not with us (and his soul is bound up in his soul)

God gave us this amazing ability to bond at different levels with family, friends and companions in order that we would be able to bless one another.

Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honour giving preference to one another (Romans 12:10)

He gave us the correct understanding of authority structure in government, employment, marriage, family and church, in order that it would give us the blessing of protection or covering. 

(Some examples: Romans 13: 1-5; 1st Corinthians 16:16; Ephesians 5:22-25; Ephesians 6:1 & 4; Colossians 4:1; 1st Peter 5:5)

However when a Soul tie goes bad the same phone line that is capable of transmitting blessing is just as capable of transmitting fear, rejection, abuse, domination, manipulation and control etc. and those on the receiving end know it all too well. One sure sign that this has happened is when one person lives in fear of another - living or dead

But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! (Galatians 5:15)

When we love someone we find strong positive emotions rising up which bond us to that person. We think positive thoughts about them. They are no longer a 'neutral' figure in our lives.

His soul was strongly attracted to Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the young woman and spoke kindly to the young woman. (Genesis 34:3)

Likewise when someone has wronged us - or wronged one whom we love - then we feel strong negative emotions rising up against that person. We think negative thoughts about them. They are no longer a 'neutral' figure in our lives.

So Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father blessed him, and Esau said in his heart, "The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then I will kill my brother Jacob" (Genesis 27:41)

The same soul tie that can carry love can carry hate.

Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, "Arise, be gone!" (2 Samuel 13:15)

Ritual is also a powerful way of 'joining' people. 

We often see rugby teams (especially New Zealand) going through a team ritual before a game in order to bond into one unit for the duration of the game.

In Christianity we have communion (or the breaking of bread) where we,

'..though many, are one bread and one body; for we all partake of that one bread'   (1st Corinthians 10:17)

..and we have baptism where

we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection,' (Romans 6:4-5)

Satanism, witchcraft, Mafia and paramilitaries etc understand the power of ritual especially ritual with spoken vows - and use it to strongly bind members together.

Freemasons rely on such rituals and refer to the powerful influence of the mystic tie that bonds all the world's freemasons into 'one' universal brotherhood with one language and one altar.

‘That sacred and invisible bond that unites men of the most discordant opinions into one band of brothers, which gives one language to men of all nations and one altar to men of all religions, is properly, from the mysterious influence it exerts, denominated the mystic tie; and Freemasons, because they alone are under its influence, or enjoy its benefits, are called brethren of the mystic tie 

- Albert Mackey 33rd Mason ‘An encyclopaedia of Freemasonry,’ vol; 2 page 778

Our lives can be ‘yoked together’ (Picture two cattle yoked together)

Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness..’ (2nd Corinthians 6:14)

The command of God is to separate or to be severed from these wrong yokings..

‘..come out from among them and be separate. .touch not the unclean thing and I will receive you’ (2nd Corinthians 6:17) 

separate = 'aforixo' means here to divide or to sever.

Our lives can be ‘bonded’ together. (Picture two items bonded with glue)

And above all these things put on charity (love) which is the bond of perfectness’ (Colossians 3:14)

This Greek word used several times in the New Testament is sundesmos {soon’-des-mos}

1) that which binds together, a band, bond of ligaments by which the members of the human body are united together

2) that which is bound together, a bundle

We can be joined to statues and 'sacred pictures'. In fact to anything we 'idolize'

That's why scripture is so unrelenting in this area.   

Statues or images of any form, used in any way, for any aspect of spiritual worship are - in scripture - always treated as an anathema to God.  

Even in the ten commandments the clear instruction is there..

You shall not make for yourself a carved image - any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.  You shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I the Lord your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me.   (Exodus 20:4-5)

When people give 'reverence' to an image in any shape or form, or talk to it, or place flowers at the base of it, or rub its feet, or bow before it, or pray to God through it, or to the person the statue represents, then know for certain that powers of darkness will attach themselves to that plaster cast figure or picture and lock the person to it. They will be joined to that lifeless image which is being idol-ized. That is why, for instance,  the thought of breaking a plaster and paint model used in such a manner is unthinkable to them. It is no longer neutral material because they have invested something of themselves into it.

  Israel joined himself to Baalpeor (a Moab idol) and the anger of the Lord was kindled against  Israel (Numbers 25:3)        

 They joined themselves also unto Baalpeor and ate sacrifices of the dead. (Psalm 106:28)

  Ephraim is joined to idols. Let him alone.. (Hosea 4:17)

We are created even to be so ‘joined’ or ‘bonded’, or ‘bound up’ or ‘knit together’ that we become what the Bible calls ‘one flesh’.

‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall become one flesh’  (Genesis 2:24)

For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’ (Ephesians 5: 31)    (‘joined’ in Greek = cleave, to stick to, glue, cement)

This powerful 'one flesh' bonding applies to all sexual intercourse, which is why 'the god of this world' promotes casual sexual relationships. Hence Paul writes to the Christians.

Know ye not that he, which is joined to a harlot, is one body' for two saith He shall become one flesh (1st Corinthians 6:16)  

In other words the two individuals could be miles apart physically yet mysteriously they are joined together as one in the unseen realms. Their souls are tied.

C .S.Lewis in his famous book 'The Screwtape letters' (1942) deals with this issue.

(Note: for those who have not read the book it is an imaginary set of letters written by  a worldly wise old devil called 'screwtape' to his nephew called 'wormwood'. Their enemy is God and Screwtape continually advises wormwood how to bring the enemy's beloved family (us) into bondage)  The following brief extract is taken from page 95 (any words in brackets are mine)

'Now comes the joke. The enemy (God) described a married couple as 'one flesh'. He did not say a 'happily married couple' or 'a couple who married because they were in love', but you can make the humans ignore that. You can also make them forget that the man they call Paul did not confine it to married couples. Mere copulation, for him, makes 'one flesh'. You can thus get the humans to accept as rhetorical eulogies of 'being in love' what were in fact plain descriptions of the real significance of sexual intercourse. The truth is that wherever a man lies with a woman, there whether they like it or not, a transcendental relation is set up between them which must be eternally enjoyed or eternally endured..'

God's wonderful design was that two virgins, one male and one female, would leave their mother and father and cleave to one another for life. 


The marriage consummation would involve the male breaking the female 'hymen' upon the first entry resulting in a little blood being shed thus signifying that they had now entered into a powerful blood covenant

One can thus see how today's casual sex with opposite sex and same sex has tied us into innumerable 'one flesh' ties with people who are tied into an ungodly network of innumerable 'one flesh ties'. An ungodly network available to the powers of darkness. 

 Sin is not harmful because it is forbidden, it is forbidden because it is harmful.


People who masturbate over pornographic pictures and films quickly become 'locked into' this secretive behaviour because when a person lusts after (i.e.' fantasizes' about having sexual intercourse with) another person they have in fact committed 'adultery' with them in their hearts. They have strongly focused upon this person and sought to sexually bond with this other person in their imagination thus giving the powers of darkness a legal right to attach themselves to that imagined figure or figures. The powers of darkness are just as happy to attach themselves to such imaginary photographic images just as they are to attach themselves to idols (as already mentioned above)

But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:28)

We are created by God to be capable of this deep level of bonding 

The one who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit with Him’ (1st Corinthians 6:17)

At that day ye shall know that I am in My Father and you in Me, and I in you’ (John 14:20)

The ultimate example of 'oneness' between two persons is Jesus and His Father. Jesus said 

"I am in the Father, and the Father is in Me." John 14:10 "I and the Father are one," He said". (John 10:30)

Ungodly grief leads to unbroken soul ties with the dead.

We are to release the dead to Jesus. The Bible pattern for mourning is that it be limited to several days (see Genesis 50:10 & Deuteronomy 34:8) The funeral service is designed to ‘commit our loved ones to God’ and natural grieving is right, respectful and healthy.

Prolonged refusal to let death do us part invites spirits of sorrow, grief, loneliness etc to take advantage of this unblessable behaviour. Applies especially to stillborn babies or miscarriages where often there is no funeral service, thus no release mechanism available.

Important: Everything God created He created for good purposes. 

Satan cannot create new spiritual principles and so he can only use existing principles

Hence - as already quoted - Paul writes to the Christians.

Know ye not that he, which is joined to a harlot, is one body' for two saith He, shall become one flesh (1st Corinthians 6:16)

Therefore this ‘knitting’ or ‘bonding’ or ‘binding’ or ‘yoking’ or ‘joining’ or the ‘one flesh’ ties that we are created to be capable of, can and does work both ways.

Satanists and witches ab-use these joining’s for satan’s wicked purposes. Jesus told us that we should be ‘wise as serpents’ (Matthew 10:16) i.e. know what the serpent is up to, and by which means he is up to it. 

Paul said that ‘we are not ignorant of the devil’s schemes' (2 Corinthians 2:11) - but sadly we have been disobedient to Jesus’ instruction and so we are ignorant of his schemes.

In many cases it has taken Jesus to bring people out from these evil groups into His Kingdom as trophies of grace and to make us ‘wise as serpents’

The reason all initiates have sex with the high priest / priestess immediately upon joining a group is not for sexual gratification. The high priest / priestess has the dominant demonic within them and the one flesh link up achieved through sexual intercourse enables them to begin exercising total control over the group.  

In her book ‘Dance with the devil’ Audrey Harper describes how several weeks after her initiation evening (where she was ritually raped by the warlock) ‘a voice in her head’ told her where and when to go to for the second meeting. Other than to make the point of the reality of soul ties these notes are not the place to discuss all the ways that the enemy has of influencing people through the ungodly use of these ‘soul ties’ or ‘people ties’.

It is important to note that when someone submits to an occult practitioner even once (such as a seaside fortune teller) they are in fact submitting themselves to the spirit that works through that 'anointed' occult practitioner. That spirit will have access to them long after they walk away from the practitioner. This applies when one submits to receive from any 'guru' or New Age practitioner. We need to be 'loosed' from these ungodly ties. [see sample prayer at end of this teaching]

We are to spiritually receive from God's anointed, not 'the enemy's anointed!

This is why we are to be severed from ungodly yokings with unrighteousness, with darkness, with Belial.

Let us read these words from God again from 2nd Corinthians chapter 6..

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness' and what communion hath light with darkness' And what concord hath Christ with Belial' or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel' And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols' for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing and I will receive you,

Important though to know that for these evil occult groups - as with the Mafia, many uncivilized tribes today, and all ancient civilizations the blood tie is the strongest tie. 

Hence they will eat flesh with the blood in it or drink blood. From scripture we see why. Blood is mentioned 321 times in the Old Testament alone. 

The core understanding being that the life of the person or the animal is in the blood. e.g. Leviticus 17:14

For it is the life of all flesh; the blood of it is for the life thereof: therefore I said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall eat the blood of no manner of flesh: for the life of all flesh is the blood

There is also the case of certain types of demon known popularly as ‘incubus’ and ‘succubus’ spirits that actually have sex with people during the night. 

They are primarily described in dictionaries as

incubus a male demon believed to lie on sleeping persons and to have sexual intercourse with sleeping women. A nightmare. An oppressive or nightmarish burden.

 (Merriam-Webster Medical Dictionary, ' 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc)

succubus an imaginary demon assuming female form and formerly held to have sexual intercourse with men in their sleep 

(Merriam-Webster Medical Dictionary, ' 2002 Merriam-Webster, Inc)

This is more common than people not involved in Christian Ministry realise and it is not imaginary!

This spiritual rape experience leaves people feeling violated, dirty, abused and vulnerable. It is real and it is reasonably common and so there needs to be a severing when this issue is disclosed during prayer ministry.

Egyptian murals depict this spiritual being to human being intercourse occurring and it was a topic discussed by St.Augustine and Thomas Aquinas. The only hint of this in scripture is..

There were giants on the earth in those days, and also afterward, when the sons of God came in to the daughters of men and they bore children to them.(Genesis 6:4)

Cindy Jacobs in her best selling book on Intercessory prayer 'Possessing the gates of the enemy' included - after much deliberation- a chapter entitled because even Christian intercessors she met had been duped by the enemy that into actually believing that these spiritual sexual experiences was Jesus Himself bringing them into His bridal chamber as his bride - and claiming his rights as the Bridegroom.. In prayer ministry we meet people who confess to having mated with animals and so have defiled themselves, becoming one flesh with them.  We have even experienced a man who had mated with a horse 'neighing' like a horse during ministry..

Jesus sent evil spirits into pigs, and the witchs' black cat holding his or her 'familiar spirit' is well known.

In prayer ministry we meet people who confess to having mated with animals.

Animals can harbour evil spirits as easily as human beings can.

Jesus sent demons into pigs (at their request - Matthew 8:31) and the witch’s black cat holding his or her familiar spirit is well known. 

This can open a person up to serious bondage. The Bible warns us very clearly..

‘Nor shall you mate with any animal, to defile yourself with it. Nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it. It is perversion. (Leviticus 18:23)  

‘If a man mates with an animal, he shall surely be put to death, and you shall kill the animal'  (Leviticus 20:15)  

‘If a woman approaches any animal and mates with it, you shall kill the woman and the animal. They shall surely be put to death. Their blood is upon them'  (Leviticus 20:16)

What is God's answer?

Jesus gave the authority to undo the works of the enemy. His authority, led by, and in the Power of His Spirit, we are His answer.

And I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.' (Matthew 16:19)

Assuredly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.  (Matthew 18:18)

  And these signs will follow those who believe: In My name they will cast out demons   Mark 16:17)    

Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you'(Luke 10:19)

Separating may therefore be needed between a man (or woman) and a..

4.pornographic image
6.Spiritual being

Note that even though the animal is innocent, the contamination is so real that even it was to be killed. Clearly not as a punishment on the innocent animal but as a security measure. A human being had joined him/herself to it and so both were now spiritually unclean. (i.e open to demonic influence. Thank God for the Precious Blood of JesusNo more stoning. God has made a way.

The ‘severing’ procedure.

Over ten years in ministry I think I have seen more freedom come through cutting soul ties than any other ministry procedure.  This is not a formula - it is a useful framework for prayer ministry. Prior to this short ministry, ensure that the person receiving ministry has put the ungodly situation that produced the ungodly tie right with God.

    Agreement with God.  Confession.  Repentance.  Renouncing. Blessing.

Place both parties ‘under the authority of Jesus Christ of Nazareth who came in the flesh’.  Note: only one party need ask for the severing. (Example :A boat tied to a pier can be released by untying at either the pier or the boat)

Ask Jesus to sever the ‘spirit, soul, and body' ties between the two parties’

Ask Jesus to bring back to the person being prayed for, anything of their 'sprit, soul and body' that has been invested in the relationship with the other person.

Ask Jesus to take back to the other party anything 'of their sprit, soul and body' that the person being prayed for is still holding of them.

Place the symbol of the empty cross and ‘Precious Blood of Jesus Christ’ between both parties

In Jesus’ Name, bind ‘any powers of darkness that came in through the ungodly tie’ and command them to leave the person beig prayed for and to now go ‘where Jesus tells them to go’

        Ask the Holy Spirit to fill those areas where the enemy had until now held sway in.

A sample prayer for cutting of ties ..

 Person being        prayed for

Other person   

I place (name the person being prayed for) under the authority of Jesus Christ of Nazareth who came in the flesh, and I ask You, Lord Jesus, to sever the ungodly spirit, soul and body ties that have been established between them and ( the other person here.. )

I ask You Lord Jesus, in Your grace and mercy, to bring back to (name the person being prayed for) everything of their 'sprit, soul and body' that (name the other person here) may be holding of them.

And I ask You Lord Jesus to take away from ..(name the person being prayed for) everything of ...(name the other person here) spirit soul and body and return this to them.

By faith I place the symbol of the empty cross and the Shed Blood of Jesus Christ between them.

I now take authority in Jesus' Name over any /every demonic power linked into and onto this ungodly tie, and in Jesus' Name I command you to leave ('.name the person being prayed for') without harming him / her, and tgo only where Jesus Christ tof Nazareth tells you to go.   

I ask You Holy Spirit to fill those areas where the enemy had held sway in..

              No soul tie
Note: Occasionally there can be physical manifestations.

What God cannot bless He will not bless. Make sure that all the enemies’ rights are removed before ministry otherwise power encounters can occur which are long and tedious and unnecessary. 

If all rights have been removed and there are still manifestations, use your authority in Jesus’ Name to prohibit the demonic from using the person’s damaged emotions. This usually brings order back into the situation. Then command the demonic to go in Jesus' Name. If a demon manifests and will not leave it means that there are still rights to be dealt with.

If God’s people are to experience their position of freedom leaving no bridges for the enemy to cross then ungodly ties must be cut. Ungodly ‘bindings’ must be loosed. Ungodly ‘joinings’ must be severed. Ungodly ‘one flesh’ ties must be separated. Ungodly ‘yokings’ must be broken.

Is this not the fast that I have chosen

To loose the bonds of wickedness

To undo the heavy burdens

To let the oppressed go free

And that you break every yoke"

Isaiah 58:6

For further information on this subject there are many excellent books now available

A testimony:

"I came to your classes not really having any preconception of what might happen and oh boy how I have been set free. For 22 years I have lived with guilt and shame and my friends had prayed with me on many occasions but the feelings always came back and overwhelmed me and I couldn't even talk about what happened without crying.  Soul ties were explained to me and one of your team prayed with me, only what I can describe as a miracle took place. Immediately I felt released from the bondage I had been in and for the first time in 22 years felt whole again in Christ. I not only felt free but couldn't even call to mind old feelings that used to reduce me to tears and made me feel so unworthy. It has been a total turnaround in my life, and I just wanted you to know that I am getting baptised at the end of April. I finally feel free to serve God the way I should and to His glory He never gave up on me.  Your obedience many years ago and your teaching were the instrument God used to set me free and bring me back to Him. It has also made me realise that I am an instrument in my Saviour's hands and I am so excited to know what He has for me, no more treading water!  May God richly bless you, your family and your ministry and Ken thank you once again.. I'm Free.

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